Frazzled UBM

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  Which site can I find a JW brother that matches me so I can marry only in the Lord?

  by asiandiana00 in

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  i am 30 and i am hoping to meet the brother who i will love me for me and would want to marry me.

  i want to marry only in the lord but as the balance of brothers and sisters are not even and i am getting older as time goes by, im kinda a little panicky now.

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  opening post then nothing - either a p*** take or quickly realised she was in the wrong place and ran away. If she is genuine - and this is not an uncommon phenomenon - she is heading for lifetime virginity status unless she gets to 32 or 33 and starts to look this reality in the face and realises she has been led down the garden path and wakes up to the fact that the talent pool outside 'the Lord' has a lot more to offer.
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  Jehovah's Witnesses mentioned on BBC News site regarding not voting

  by defender of truth in

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  jehovah's witnesses.

  there are about 140,000 jehovah's witnesses in the uk who will choose not to vote on 7 may.. mark o'malley, a spokesman for the christian-based religious movement, said: "as you go through the bible we see that god's kingdom is already established in heaven with god as the king of that kingdom.. "we are politically neutral as, in a sense, we have already chosen to support that kingdom's government.

  we see it as a real government.. "there are limitations to what governments can do, maybe they can improve the health system, but they can't prevent death, maybe they can help children, but they can't provide a secure future for them necessarily.

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  I liked this bit: "So you will see Jehovah's Witnesses are model citizens when it comes to paying taxes". They are also model citizens when it comes to using welfare. When a JW work associate left his reaonably remunerated job to witness two days a week and work part-time in unskilled low-paid work I pointed out to him that he would never be able to own his own home - he pointed out to me that this had not been a problem for his Witness parents. When pressed he explained that they had lived in subsidized council housing their entire adult lives and that he expected to do the same. I don't have a problem with welfare to support people who don't have the support themselves but this guy was smart and capable enough to earn enough to suppport himself and his family but chose not to do this (to be a salesmen for the org) and to rely on welfare instead. I guess that makes taxpayers the equivalent of Jehovah because he would believe that it is Jehovah who is providing.
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  My sons first talk

  by lukejmedic in

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  quick backstory:raised a jw, ms, reg pioneer, international need greater work.

  i have been da for 2 years, divorced, ex and my son live 6 hours away near walkill ny.. my sons first talk is coming up, in august.

  he is 7 years old.

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  It is tricky - how to go without being seen to be condoning this exercise in manipulation. Giving a speech and being made to feel good about it is important to the process of indoctrination by linking ego to belief ( he feels good about the religion because he is made to feel good about giving the speech). If you do go, you need to sit him down and explain to him why it was difficult for you to go and that even though you didn't agree with him doing it or with what he was presenting, you went to support him. if you get shunned, make sure to let him understand that happened.

  Interestingly, when the shoe is on the other foot even ex-Witnmesses have trouble doing what you propose but in reverse. Even though my wife has stopped going to meetings, when my son joined the choir at school and had to perform at the local Anglican church, my wife would not go to hear him sing. But this last weekend she came with us to La Sagrada Familia in Barcelona (which is a basilica) and so there is no consistency to her behaviour.
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  The poor and deprived life of JW children.

  by Esse quam videri in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i find it hard to believe that adults on this forum make such a big deal about not celebrating birthdays, x-mas, easter, halloween, etc, etc, etc.

  i grew up as a jw kid and it actually made me feel good, being different from the other kids in school.

  we went to meetings.

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  Isolation can intensify bonding - certainly that is what the WBTS wants and achieves. That sense of specialness (actually superiority) because holidays are not celebrated reinforces the isolation and bonding with others who do the same thing. So it is unsurprising that Esse has fond memories. But the reality is this did damage. My wife who was also brought up as a Witness and is very close to her brothers and sisters for similar reasons but she is incapable of operating socially outside her family.
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  Do You Think Humanity Will Ever Be Completely Free From Religion?

  by InjusticeSystem in

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  i realize that many here still have a form of spirituality or faith, and i mean no disrespect to those individuals.

  i suppose i am posting this question to those, like myself, who have come to the conclusion that religion in general is a major hindrance to the progress of our species and needs to be put aside so that we can advance to our full potential.

  so my question is, do you think this will ever actually happen, and how do you think we can get there?

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  In most of the world belief in religion is on the rise and Islam is the fastest growing so there is no grounds for believing that reason will triumph over faith any time soon. Because a lot of people on this site have moved from absolute belief in a particular religious doctrine to rationality and atheism, I think there is a tendency to generalise this experience to the world. Alas this is not supported by the evidence.
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  Family defend pregnant Jehovah's Witness Who Died With Baby

  by Bangalore in

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  2. medical

  'she put the baby first each and every time': family defend pregnant jehovah's witness who died with her baby after refusing blood transfusion, chemotherapy and c-section due to religious beliefs.

  read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3034491/she-baby-time-no-matter-happened-family-defend-pregnant-jehovah-s-witness-died-baby-refusing-blood-transfusion-chemotherapy-c-section-religious-beliefs.html#ixzz3ylbjfbvr follow us: @mailonline on twitter | dailymail on facebook.

  bangalore.

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  This is just so sickening and totally avoidable - it makes me so angry - more blood on the hands of the WBTS!
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  questions

  by DanielC in

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  i've been dating a jw girl for about 4 years and we've recently had a lot of issues with the fact that her family doesn't like that i'm not a jw.

  i've been looking into the religion and am interested in it.

  but is it wrong to join just so i don't lose her?

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  Frazzled UBM

  Stop thinking with the little head. Let me do some crystal ball gazing for you an dlook into yoru future:

  You get baptized to improve your relationshiop with your gf's family. Then you marry her and have kids and your kids are brought up as Witnesses and subjected to the indoctrination they use to induce sub-conscious phobias that they can manipulate as your child grows older to keep them in and stop them developing critical thinking skills. Years later you wake up to the full horror and see this manipulative cult for what it is and want out. You get disfellowshipped and your wife shuns you and encourages yoru kids to do the same - she gets help from the organisation to win custody of your kids on the basis you are spiritaully weak and a bad influence. Later your kids also wake up and realise the psychological damage this cult has done to them and resent you for not doing more to get them out.

  This scenario is by no means fanciful. I am not suggesting you need to break up with your gf but if you are going to stay with her do it on your own terms and be clear you will not be converting and you will actively oppose your kids being brought up as Witnesses. This will test how liberal a Witness she really is. If she walks away you know you have dodged a bullet because she is telling you the organsiation is more important to her than you. If she stays then you have good prospects of getting her out (though recognise that it wil be a long hard bitter struggle to break the spell of indoctrination but it will be her seeing your genuine love for her that will win out in the end).

  I think it is ironic that so many people on this site will tell you to end the relatinship point blank because they don't give Witnesses any credit for being able to get out when they themselves have done so. My wife was brought up in the cult and baptized and very much under the yolk but over time I have gotten her to the point where she has not gone to a meeting for 18 months and didn't even go tot the memorial this year. .
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  "In the beginning, God created the Heavens and the Earth . ."

  by nicolaou in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so where did god exist before he created the heavens?

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  When my wife was in full indoctrination mode I asked her the following:

  "Jehovah created man correct? Then who created Jehovah?"

  She was flumoxed by this question as it had clearly never occurred to her. So I said: "I will give you a clue, they also created Allah, the Hindu Gods, the Ancient Egyptian Gods etc." She continued to look perplexed but also now a bit suspicious. "Do you give up?" I asked. "Mankind!" I answered at which point she looked at me darkly and walked off.
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  Anyone picked up that muslim fanatic convicted in UK for planning another attack on a soldier was brought up JW?

  by Frazzled UBM in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i didn't find this particularly surprising given jw indoctrination is all about how evil the non-believers are (and how deserving they are to be destroyed during the big a) and how the wbts is absolutely right and everyone else is absolutely wrong - so it is not a big jump to islamic fanaticism.

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  Frazzled UBM

  I didn't find this particularly surprising given JW indoctrination is all about how evil the non-believers are (and how deserving they are to be destroyed during the big A) and how the WBTS is absolutely right and everyone else is absolutely wrong - so it is not a big jump to Islamic fanaticism.
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  South American "Mayan" mob justice. Have you heard of it??

  by DATA-DOG in

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  2. current

  i have a close friend who has jw family in south america.

  recently some criminals ran through their town.

  the locals routinely practice "mayan justice" where the criminals are beaten or burned to death, depending on the crime.. the authorities try to stop it, but they are not always successful.

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  Frazzled UBM

  I thought the mayans were from Central not South America (Mexico, Guatelmala, Honduras etc.)